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  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    How Prince Harry Was Helped by Bereavement Counselling

    - by Welldoing

    Prince Harry’s decision to open up about having therapy as he struggled to come to terms with the death of his mother, Diana, Princess of Wales, has been heralded as a breakthrough moment in promoting the advantages of counselling to bereaved people. Prof Simon Wesseley, president of Royal College of Psychiatrists said that the prince’s podcast will make “a huge difference to the way we discuss grief. I think that…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Why You Can’t Make it Alone

    - by Welldoing

    In the second century AD, the Roman emperor, Marcus Aurelius, wrote to himself in his Meditations: it is your duty to stand straight – not held straight. Aurelius, a Stoic, believed self-reliance, acceptance of what cannot be changed and clarity of thought to be of utmost importance and crucial to a fulfilling life. Much of his writing and the writing of other Stoics served the basis for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy…

  • Coaching

    Can You be a Confident Introvert?

    - by Welldoing

    Many introverts are confident people and introversion is not about lack of confidence, but characterises those who are more stimulated by internal thought than by external action and interaction. Where an introverted personality type might not actively seek and enjoy large social interactions, this is a preference rather than an aversion. They just prefer the solace of solitude, at least at regular intervals, to recharge their batteries. To a more…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    The Powerful Benefits of Reading Fiction

    - by Welldoing

    When was the last time you read a book, or a substantial online article? Do your daily reading habits streetch no further than tweets, mundane Facebook updates, or the cooking instructions of ready meals? If you’re one of countless people who refuse to make a habit of reading regularly, you might be missing out: reading fiction has all sorts of advantages. For a start, several studies reveal that reading fiction…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Is Your Childhood Sabotaging Your Relationships?

    - by Welldoing

    Many surveys indicate that January features high on the list of break ups and couples heading for the divorce courts. So perhaps it is timely to consider the choices we make when we are looking for a partner. We seek out people to whom we can attach ourselves over our lifetime. But we need to let go emotionally of our primary caregivers before we can form new secure attachments. I…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    The Causes of Addiction: from a Counsellor and Recovering Addict

    - by Welldoing

    Most of my clients come to see me because of a crisis in their family or personal relationships. And as such I tend to see many struggling with addiction either themselves or how it affects their significant loved one(s). And whilst it is true that all addicts or alcoholics will have issues with personal relationships, it is not necessarily the case that family or relationship traumas (or any external factors…

  • Coaching

    Mindfulness Body Scan to Help With Anxiety

    - by Welldoing

    ‘The past is already gone. The future is not here. There is only one moment for you to live. That is the present time.’ – The Buddha When the Buddha spoke about being mindful of the feelings, he meant both bodily sensations, such as warmth, hunger or physical pain, and feelings such as happiness, sadness, boredom and so on. But unless we are being rocked by some big emotion, many…

  • Coaching

    20 Ways to Give Without Expectations

    - by Tiny Buddha

    “The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.” ~Samuel Johnson Some people say there’s no such thing as a selfless act—that any time we do something to help another person, we get something in return, even if it’s just a warm fuzzy feeling. I’ve spent a lot of time playing with this idea in my head. It doesn’t really bother…

  • Coaching

    The psychological secrets to successful resolutions

    - by BBC News

    After the excesses of the festive season, the thoughts of many turn to making resolutions to stop bad habits and take up healthier ones. Unfortunately, quite a few fail. But there are some psychological tactics which can be employed to increase the chances of success. 1. Persistence Psychologist Prof Richard Wiseman, from the University of Hertfordshire, has carried out research into the key to sticking to resolutions. In a study…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Depression: On Feeling Like an Impostor

    - by Blurt

    Feeling like an impostor is something that those with depression are familiar with. We feel like we stand out like a sore thumb; for all the wrong reasons. It’s as though we just don’t fit it with other people; their ideals, their expectations, their perspectives, their abilities. Everyone seems cleverer, stronger, more beautiful, more deserving, more organised, more rational, more talented, more…everything good. The very nature of depression is that…