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  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Why Do I Always Procrastinate?

    - by Welldoing

    We all have times in our lives when we have a task to do, yet find ourselves busily engaging in anything but that task. This is not always a negative thing. When compared to pre-crastination (compulsively completing tasks as soon as possible) procrastination can sometimes be a positive process, slowing us down and allowing more creative ideas to emerge and flow. Interestingly, procrastination tends to be endorsed in popular culture.…

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    Five charities on why International Men’s Day matters to them

    - by The Telegraph

    oday is International Men’s Day (IMD), the annual international campaign to raise awareness for men’s issues – from health concerns and domestic violence, to paternity rights and educational attainment levels. In recent years some have viewed the day as unnecessary and counter-productive. As Glen Poole wrote yesterday, however, there are plenty of reasons to celebrate. One of those is that IMD does extraordinary work for a multitude of small charities, all of which…

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    The Psychology of Donald Trump’s Election

    - by Welldoing

    Donald Trump has defeated Hillary Clinton to become President of the United States. Waking up to this news has left much of the world in shock. Our fears are for gender equality, the rights of minorities, the protection of the environment; in international relations, where his election might affect the UK, his ideas appear to be purely transactional, with no interest in values. How does a man who embodies many…

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    Upgrade to Better Human Connection

    - by Welldoing

    It’s one of the great ironies of our age that while more of us than ever before report feeling isolated and lonely, the volume of our communication increases exponentially on a daily basis. In reaching out to family, friends and colleagues, our default setting is to pick up a device and search for a WiFi signal. And yet all this digital discourse very often leaves us feeling bereft of genuine…

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    How Our Relationships Protect Us Against Stress

    - by Welldoing

    Amphibians and reptiles are born raring to go and require little parenting to get a good start in life. We humans are born in a helpless state and rely on nurturance for our early survival. Indeed, there is no species on earth that is born more helpless (altricial) than we are. It is not surprising then that attachment insecurity may trigger our disease pathways by increasing our stress. Survival strategy Our survival strategy is therefore locked in and plays…

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    Male suicide: It’s time to face the stark truth about a growing crisis

    - by Independent

    The biggest killer of men under 45 in the UK is suicide. Despite all the horrible diseases we could contract, accidents we could be in or potential ways we could kill each other, we’re still killing ourselves more frequently than any of those things.   “How are you?”, or one of its many derivatives, is probably the most commonly asked question in the English language. A throw-away pleasantry usually responded to with…

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    Are There Any Benefits to Being Introverted?

    - by Welldoing

    Personality traits such as introversion and sensitivity can make people more likely to experience fear and anxiety. However, they also tend to have many positive qualities, including creativity and compassion. Part of what causes anxiety is the intensity of emotions and energy absorbed from others. So doing something creative helps to channel that energy and release negative feelings. Find what you are passionate about and do it. You will not…

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    How Therapy Can Reveal Opportunity in Midlife Crisis

    - by Welldoing

    Midlife crisis is a subject of many jokes – a balding man in a red sports car comes to mind. Yet it does not seem funny if we look at the statistics. Research consistently confirms that people in their 40s and 50s are the least happy age group around. So if you are a forty or fifty something and are feeling unhappy, irritable, “stuck”, depressed – you are not alone.…

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    LGBTQ Issues / Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation

    - by GoodTherapy.org

    Although a person’s sexual or romantic orientation or gender identity may not be a source of distress, people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, asexual, or any other orientation or gender identity may find that the social stigma of living as a minority is a source of stress or anxiety. When seeking therapy, whether for issues associated with one’s sexual, romantic, or gender identity or for concerns…

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    When Reality Doesn’t Meet Expectation

    - by Welldoing

    One of the great challenges we all face at some point in our lives is how to accept and live with situations that we do not want to accept. These challenges can range from major life-changing events such as the death of a loved one, serious illness, assault, unexpected infertility, through to less catastrophic life disappointments. What links these experiences is the unexpected rupture of the person’s ‘assumptive’ world and…