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  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Can You Grieve Something You Never Had?

    - by Welldoing

    There is no such thing as a perfect childhood. But some of us end up in therapy because our childhoods were missing something. Or had too much of something. Or, when combined with our genetic inheritance and our unique brand of frailty, were not quite what we needed to help us grow into adults capable of self-actualisation. For a long time I’ve known that therapy cannot simply ‘make up for’…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Why do Married People Look the Same?

    - by Welldoing

    Sometimes I look in the mirror and see someone else’s face staring back at me. Most people look like a mix of their parents. Their father’s nose and their mother’s eyes. Their dad’s jawline and their mother’s hair. When I look in the mirror, though – particularly when I’ve just had a haircut – I see my brother. Only five years apart, we look a lot alike. Similar facial structure,…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Psychotherapy: Change or Acceptance?

    - by Cristiano Bruschi

    ‘Once we accept our limits we go beyond them’ ~ Albert Einstein     Many people see counselling and psychotherapy as something that would allow them to make small or big changes in their lives. Some other people might want to explore specific life situations and seek support to manage them in a healthy way.   In my experience of therapy I can say that I have witnessed many changes…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Are Stigma And Shame Still Attached To Seeking Counselling?

    - by Cristiano Bruschi

    Is seeking counselling and psychotherapy still considered by most people as something that needs to be kept hidden from everyone else?   The answer may be linked to the difficult relationship that society has with mental health. For most people difficulties and mental health issues are signs of weakness that needs to be concealed at any cost. Perhaps this feeling amplifies the power of their internal critic that often or occasionally says to…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    How to Reduce Anxiety Before a Job Interview, an Exam or in Other Stressful Situations

    - by Cristiano Bruschi

    It can be hard to deal with particularly stressful situations where anxiety levels rise and life feels overwhelming. It happens to anyone that before a job interview, an exam, a health check-up or a stressful situation, everything seems much harder to keep under control. Sometimes it is just enough to find ourselves outside our comfort zone and anxiety kicks in. There are some tools and techniques that can be very…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    The Power of Vulnerability

    - by Cristiano Bruschi

    When I first listened to this inspirational talk by researcher and ‘storyteller’ Brene’ Brown, I was struck by the simplicity and humility in which she shared her story. She manages to talk about vulnerability, that lies behind shame and fear, in an engaging and encouraging way. She also talks about the importance of connections between people. This story will perhaps resonate with most people. It’s about the built-in voice in…